Hidden Cure
I believe in selflessness.
That’s selflessness. Not selfishness. That’s putting others before self. Not self centered.
That’s looking outwardly. Not inwardly.
Yes, I believe in putting others before oneself.
And I believe that using selflessness for small, insignificant situations can solve a bigger problem. For example, I stand in the lunch line and watch as mobs of students cut to the front. I tell myself that it’s not that big of a deal, but I realize that if nobody cut, the line would move incredibly fast. People cut because they don’t want to stand forever, but if nobody cut, the line would run so smoothly people would get to the front just as fast.
There have been many times when I have not been selfless. Such is the case in basketball. The basketball court is a battlefield. I used to look out for myself, because if I didn’t do my job, I sat the bench. I know, I should have been thinking “teamwork,” but in the end it came down to who was doing their job on the court, and who wasn’t. During one of my games, I was going up for a lay-up and I got hammered, sprawling out on the baseline. I went to get up, and an opponent offered me his hand. Now I find that “cool.” I find that respectable. Of all the hot-shots out there, of all those who can dunk and dribble like mad, I admire those who can help me up from the court. Here we were, in a situation made for selfishness, and this kid had enough decency to get me on my feet.
There are many times when I am selfless. Such is the case in one big memory of me tutoring a student. I circle a math problem on the piece of paper, telling him to try one by himself. He looks toward a few students on the other side of the classroom, but I pull him back, not letting him lose focus. He’s smart, and I know it. He doesn’t know it, and doesn’t want to. I won’t let him fail, so I push him, forcing him to think, to work. Within a half-an-hour the homework page is done. It is the first piece of homework that he has ever completed. He looks up at me and smiles.
There have also been times when I have seen others that lack selflessness. For instance, a woman was unloading packages from her car. Her arms were full, almost to the point of dropping the packages, and she was advancing towards the door. A man on a cell phone passed her halfway there and slipped through the door, letting it shut behind him. The woman stopped walking and stared. She was just as surprised as me. Then she began to attempt to open the door herself, shuffling sideways to get a hand out. I raced up and grabbed the handle for her, and she smiled very pleasantly, thanked me, and headed through.
I believe that lifting someone to their feet, helping someone learn, and holding a door are all selfless. I believe that simple acts can be selfless, and thus selflessness is actually very easy. I believe that people appreciate selflessness, and that I should strive to be selfless toward others.
I also believe that selflessness can be spread. Selflessness is the hidden cure. In a world of violence, people ask for a solution. Selflessness is that solution. It’s a cure that no one has considered. It doesn’t require brilliant mind and a multibillion dollar research facility. It doesn’t require incredible motivation and dedication. It requires believing. I hear about selfishness all the time, but I barely ever hear of selflessness. I want to replace selfish with selfless. I’m going to be selfless to others, in hopes that they will do the same. Let’s share selflessness with the world.
Let’s believe in selflessness.
April 3rd, 2008 at 3:35 pm
Hi Cody,
I enjoyed reading about your acts of kindness - especially the situation when someone else rudely walked by the woman unloading packages and you rushed to help her.
I believe in helping others too - and your essay inspires me to do more of that.
April 11th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Cody,
This is one of the best essays I have ever read, and I truly mean that. Your voice came through so well that at times, I stopped reading along and just listened. The way you paused between each paragraph really made me think about what you had last said and really put meaning into what you were saying. Congratulations on such an amazing piece of work. I hope you continue to cherish what you have written and also continue to be such a kind young man. The world needs more of selflessness and I think that you have begun to make that first step. Very nice.
April 25th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
I agree! I wish we practiced a little more kindness. We all have to live together anyways, why not enjoy it? I think little acts of kindness just like this one are what will make a difference in obtaining world peace. I am glad chivalry isn’t dead! Neither is kindness Cody- I wish more people would follow your example, but there are those of us who do. Thanks! Keep it up.
May 2nd, 2008 at 2:42 pm
GOOD JOB CODY!!!!!!! I agree. This is probably one of the best essays i have read all day!!!!!! You sounded serious throughout the whole speech! I like how your described about the elderly women and her groceries and how you helped her out. it was a very good example of selflessness!!!!!!! keep it up cody!